What I’ve Learned So Far

I’m no sage. I have a long way to go before I’ll be able to consider myself wise; but no one goes through life’s ups and downs without picking up a lesson or two. The learnings may range from trivial to profound, but it’s a comfort to know that one emerges from life’s events a little richer with nuggets of wisdom. Here, I present to you my humble stash.

  • It’s not a cliche. A moment can really change a lifetime.
  • If you’re on a drinking session and a pal exclaims “Hindi ako lasing!”, hold on to that friend, infuse his/her system with caffeine, and get him/her under a shower, quick! Believe me, he/she is very drunk and is about to do something stupid.
  • Unless you live in a country with a very cold climate, don’t touch that sake (Japanese rice wine).
  • You ALWAYS have a choice. Not choosing is in itself a decision.
  • Osso buco is not just a meal… it’s an experience! And a very good one at that.
  • “I’ll support you whatever decision you make” translates to “I’ll only support you if your decision is something agree with” for some people.
  • Beware of those who seem overly-concerned when you’re undergoing something major. Some of them just want to hear the juicy details. In short, chismosa.
  • Marriage and pregnancy are two different things.
  • Marriage is a personal decision.
  • Ang taong wala ang pinag-uusapan. Basic rule of social gatherings. (Thanks for this Sir Bello!)
  • Being a strong person has its downside too. Your strength can only take you so far and by the time you’ve reached your limit, you’ll be surprised to see that most of your so-called friends are having a field day gossiping behind your back while scratching their heads and wondering why you’re feeling like crap. As if they’re the only ones entitled to moments of weakness.
  • You’ll often hear this from people: “If you need anything, just tell me and I’ll be there for you.” The cold, hard truth: Only a handful will deliver.
  • A mother’s love is something that will never cease to amaze me.
  • When you go out clubbing, make sure you’re with people who really enjoy the scene; otherwise, you’ll end up having a really bad night.
  • Ledge-dancing is a memory that will continue to haunt me and make me blush to the roots of my hair especially if it wasn’t done under the influence of alcohol since I can’t blame Dutch courage for doing it. Also, the memory is much, much clearer that way.
  • Eat. Drink. And be merry. For tomorrow you’ll be doing the dishes.
  • Household chores can be therapeutic. (Stop laughing!)
  • “Philo course mo? Ano magiging trabaho mo diyan?” will remain to be one of the stupidest questions I’ve ever heard and will ever hear.
  • Religion sometimes poses as a hindrance to one’s growth.
  • No matter how careful you are and no matter how simple the terms you use in explaining an ideology to someone, there are those who still refuse to open up to a dialogue. More often than not, these are the people who already have fixed viewpoints and ready-made judgments spew forth from their mouths. No use talking to these dogmatic few; you’ll only get wrinkles and a migraine but no progress whatsoever.
  • When someone we know dies, we get affected not only because we were acquainted with the person but also because their deaths remind us of our own mortality.
  • Clinical depression should be given more attention.
  • Don’t say “Kaya mo yan” or “Okay lang yan” to someone who’s down in the dumps. You’re not helping one bit.
  • It may be a touchy topic, you may not agree with me but heck, I’ll say it anyway. Women who have undergone abortion should not be judged for what they did.They had their reasons and there may be a number of them who had selfish reasons but that is their decision. They’re already suffering enough on their own and there’s no need to go moralista on them and the painful choice they made.
  • If you’re ticklish, immediately alert the person who’ll be giving you a foot scrub. Do this BEFORE, not after the procedure, when she’s already drenched in soapy water and an imprint of your foot is very visible on her face.
  • There is a point at which forbearance ceases to be a virtue. – Edmund Burke
  • Just because I’m not the jealous type doesn’t mean I don’t know how to love.
  • Losing your virginity at a relatively older age doesn’t mean you’ll be wiser.
  • Don’t heave a sigh of relief just yet when the prof announces that finals will be in multiple choice. Multiple choice nga A-Z naman ang pagpipilian mo.
  • Beauty pageants make the best gag shows.
  • Be nice to waiters/ waitresses. if you don’t like their service, don’t leave a tip or inform the manager. Don’t treat them as second-class citizens. they’re human beings… and you don’t know what they’re capable of doing to your soup befor they serve it. (Evil snicker)
  • Do not even attempt to do yoga on a full stomach otherwise, it’s hello breakfast! What are you doing in a mush on the floor?!
  • Having courtside access to basketball games and seeing the players up-close and personal really isn’t enjoyable and exciting to someone who doesn’t care for the sport.
  • In actuality, it’s not the “common” sinners, but the monks and priests, who give Catholicism a bad name. No further elaborations, your honor.
  • Scenario: a guy gets a girl pregnant. If the guy runs, everyone calls him a jerk but brushes his action as typical. However, if it’s the girl who leaves, everyone is reeling and shock and wondering WTF?!
  • Never ever answer to a “sutsot”. You have a name.
  • Guys will do anything to see girl-on-girl action. (Wait a sec, where did I put that pic of Mags and Riel smooching? Haha)
  • As long as you’re alive, you’ll keep making mistakes. And as long as you’re making mistakes, you’ll keep learning. And on that note…